From Emily Post, 7 rules for avoiding PR faux pas

Lauer: “You were asked whether using the N-word in telling a joke was hurtful. And you said, quote:

‘I don’t know. Most jokes are about Jewish people, rednecks, black folks. I didn’t make up the jokes. They usually target, though, a group. I can’t, myself, determine what offends another person.’

Lauer: “Do you have any doubt in your mind that African-Americans are offended by the N-word?” Deen: “I don’t know, Matt. I have asked myself that so many times. Because it’s very distressing for me to go into my kitchen and I hear what these young people are callin’ each other. It’s very, very distressing. It’s very distressing for me, because I think that for this problem to be worked on, that these young people are gonna have to take control and start showin’ respect for each other and not throwin’ that word at each other. That—it is—it makes my skin crawl.”